Why is it I am so suspicious? I know I have met people
before that have been not at all who they claimed to be. I have never
understood why someone would pretend to be someone or something they are not.
I am mostly talking about when “chatting” with someone. I
understand chatting and getting to know others through chat. I have been
fortunate to meet other couples. What I do not understand is why would someone
pretend? I just am baffled why someone would not be true to themselves. I mean
if you want to pretend to be in a DD or D/s relationship that seems rather
pathetic to me. Why not be who you truly are or be honest especially when
chatting with others? What do you gain from it?
Most people I chat with could care less if someone is in a
relationship that is the same as theirs, every relationship is different
anyway. We all do things different, as
we should. We know what works for our relationship, others do not.
It seems to me lately, some of the folks just come in to
hear a sp****** story, or to say something for Shock Value. Some come in under
many different names. Why? What is it that they are looking for?
When I first came to chat the people that were in there were
so helpful to me. I was not in a DD or D/s relationship when I first came in. I
asked so many questions, and everyone was so helpful. I am sure I drove some
crazy with all of the questions I asked.
I am no expert at DD or D/s I do not pretend to be. Even
after three years Off & On I still ask questions. Asking someone’s opinion
on something doesn’t mean Lee or I have to take their advice, but I do think it
can make interesting and sometimes helpful conversation. In the process of us
or anyone asking a question it can lead to something someone else could be
thinking about or having difficulty with.
I have recently read a few blogs I had never read before. I
used to read blogs all of the time. I certainly miss some of the ones that are
no longer out there. When reading these blogs I might agree or disagree with
what the author says. When I say disagree I mean for our relationship Not
theirs. I am surprised by some of the Blogs that seem to be a Do it this way,
or You Must do this…. I am shocked when it doesn’t start off with “This worked
for us” or “We tried this it really helped or was a Huge Fail”. When someone
has the audacity to tell you exactly what you should be doing, that is a big
RED flag for me. There is not a one size fits all DD or D/s Manual! You should
not follow what someone writes because it could lead you astray from the
dynamic that works best for you in your relationship. Just remember what fits their dynamic does not necessarily fit yours or mine. Helpful hints, people
talking or blogging about their own experiences and the results whether
beneficial or not I love. The ones that appear to think they are experts I will
stay clear of. I am actually suspicious of them. LOL
Authenticity (not my word) is so important to me it seems to
be quite rare these days. Such a shame. Just remember you know your own dynamic
and what is best for your relationship. Ok my little rant is over. Can you tell
I really need a Vacation!!!!! LOL
